Repost: What makes a REAL man? Who is he really? What does a REAL man do? These are questions that our culture answers in a ton of different ways. I posted this on Twitter & Facebook to clear the air- Finish this sentence (U Can help write a blog post! Thx N advance): A real man ___________. 50 responses below; thanks everyone!
I think my favorite (they were all good & thanks for adding to the post) was a tie between: Emily Pierce’s response- A real man will lead. Short and Sweet! Kim Jackson’s response- a man that takes responsibility…for his family, actions, choices, his time, and his feelings. Never leaving it up to the “whatever”…or leaving it for someone else to fill in the blanks. Wow, love it (also loved jfinley’s). Here are the rest of the responses, enjoy:
Jubilee888 A real man… has backbone, yet knows how to be gentle. A real man doesn’t use women, & he treats them as equal value!
msvandt1 isn’t lead by emotions, will ask for help, and will provide for those he cares for.
jfinley becomes great with a woman by his side.
MontanaFry Does whatever he needs to do, no matter how ‘unmanly’, to provide for his family. (as long as it’s legal).
Meeshell_Buck takes care of his kids
Lori_A_Moore A real man is not afraid to show his vulnerability to his wife.
kimjackw a man that takes responsibility…for his family, actions, choices, his time, and his feelings. Never leaving it up to the “whatever”…or leaving it for someone else to fill in the blanks.
pastortomjam a real man does not compromise his convictions
tmtully Loves Jesus & loves his wife the way Christ loved the church”
cvii1216 knows how to read a woman’s needs. Good or bad.
eizusdoow A real man stands his ground even when unpopular. A real man gushes to his friends abt his wife.
Panchogrande04 a real man cries
rebeccagood A real man/ _takes care of his family__.
revcoldfire writes his own blog? Just kidding (Ha! Chase, I know you’re kidding, that was funny! – Chad)
nikkibelsheMTBC loves God first!!!!
YonasA Sacrifices what he loves, for what he loves more.
MonsieurMoise Is like “Blood Diamond” lol (movie)
EmpressOfPink A real man has his own mind, his own spine and they both function at the SAME TIME! (*selah*) *hmmph*
Kyle Cretsinger …is the priest of his family and should take the job of spiritual leader seriously.
Gina Gardner Ward Fuller loves and honors God. Everything else will fall into place.
Jennifer Nunley will do the right thing everytime.
Rachel Gill Honors his marriage vows
Rachel Gill And makes God the head of his household
Teresa Diseker shows affection.
Melissa Lovin would never harm a child.
Kyle Moss a real man doesn’t wear deodorant (I chose to not give a Godly answer like everyone else)
Paige Hudson Garcia keeps his promises, and avoids willfully doing or saying anything he knows is wrong.
Olayemi Eric Ogunbase recognizes that his REAL job is that of Husband and Father. Not the one for which he receives a paycheck.
Pamela Henckel Hunter Loves God first, then his wife and kids.
Emily Chance Pierce will lead.
Natalie Fletcher has reached success when his children are waiting at the door for him when he comes home from work,
Aimee Sapp desires to please God above all else.
Emily Chance Pierce Will pray with his wife.
Terence Kelly trusts God.
Stephanie Williams puts Gods will above his own.
Sam Morrison Hussman Loves God.
Michele Dosier Hollar admits when he needs help from his helpmeet.
Missy Tucker-Meitzen helps with the housekeeping!
Miriam Naomi Brant knows that his actions, words, and thoughts should not be about promoting himself…but promoting God.
Miche Traina Knows how to be vulnerable with his wife
Conrad Jackson Eats Graham crackers without anything to drink at all…
Jody Hoova Allows his relationship with Christ to guide him in leading his household, loving and respecting his wife, and raising his children. God, family, self, then everything else!
Miche Traina Can kill the spiders but still cry at Toy Story 3
Jody Hoova Catches a mouse in the house before his wife has a nervous breakdown
Bob Balkcom Resists passivity, accepts responsibility, leads courageously and expects a greater reward, God’s Reward (Mens Fraternity)
Joe Breneman Doesn’t write blogs… ha! Congrats Joe, you just helped right one, ha! – Chad
I thought it was interesting that I didn’t see one response involving a car, clothes, etc. Love it. What was your favorite? I’d Love to hear in the comments below! Please feel free to add to the list in the comments…
Action Area for dudes: What are one or two key areas above that really stand out to you? These are possibly areas that you could work on. Pick a few out and right them down, then write a few action steps for each area (Ex. Area: I would like to be more vulnerable with my wife over the next month). Action Steps #1: Once a week (for a month) I will take time to open up to my wife in an area that I am uncomfortable talking about. Action Step #2: Once a week (for a month) I will ask my wife one area that she sees that I can grow in personally. I will not be defensive! Action Step #3: I will ask a friend to hold my accountable to this area of growth in the next 5 days.
Action Area for single ladies: What are two or three key characteristics that you are looking for in a future spouse? (Ex. Area- I want a dude that puts his faith and relationship with God before his job or anything else). Action Step #1: Write these down; maybe there are more than three. Action Step #2: Commit to praying weekly for your future spouse, whoever this may be. Pray for these areas in his life. Action Step #3: Commit to one of your friends that you will not compromise in these areas with the guys you are involved with. Ask them to hold you up to it and see if they want to make their own list.
Action Area for married ladies: What do you see currently in your man that you are thankful for? What are areas that you think he may be able to grow? (Ex. I am thankful that he is so engaged with our kids. I would love to see him grow spiritually as a leader) Action step #1: Commit to telling him once a week over the next 4 weeks one thing that you see in him that you really dig. Action step #2: Commit to praying for him weekly for one area per week. After a couple of weeks, just rotate to a new area. See what God does in his life! Action step #3: If it is an area that is appropriate (be careful with this one), talk to him about it. “I’d love to pray with you, can we pray together tonight?” or “I’d really love it if you showed affection to me in this way.”
Ok, just wanted to give you guys some ideas for taking action on any of the above things people listed. Get after it! – Chad