The 2010 Mentor is someone that you identify as an authority on a particular topic or area. You may or may not even know them, but through technology, social media (and the likes) you can learn a ton from them! They are different than a traditional mentor or what you would think of as a mentor. While they don’t take the place of real face-to-face relationships in your life, the 2010 Mentor can help shape your beliefs and skills and help you grow in powerful ways. This post was written in conjunction with The 2010 Mentor: How Someone You Barely Know Can Change Your Life (I would recommend also reading the first post so that you can have better context for this one). Below are a few tips on finding a 2010 Mentor as well as ways to give back by being a 2010 Mentor. The 2010 Mentor- How to Find One & Become One:
How do I find a 2010 Mentor?
1. Get clarity. Find out where you need help or what you would like to learn. Get clarity on a few areas of growth. Ask questions like, “If I could grow in any area in my life right now, what area would that be?” You may have answers like, “I would like to grow as a communicator,” or “I would like to learn to be a better friend to others,” or “I would like to grow in a deeper relationship with my spouse.” Personal and spiritual growth happens when you are intentional about it. Identify a few areas of growth, then turn them into concrete, measurable goals. Get clarity.
2. Get after it. After you find out what you are looking for in a 2010 Mentor, get after it! Ask questions like, “Who can I learn from to grow in the areas that I would like to grow.” If you want to grow as a communicator, find a few people you respect as communicators. If you want to grow as a friend, find a resource and buy it (Speed of Trust by Steven Covey is money)! If you would like to grow in a relationship with your spouse, seek out someone that is an authority on relationships and starting digesting what they are saying. Here is a good list of relationship resources. Your 2010 Mentor probably won’t even know they are one of your 2010 Mentors. Just start paying attention to what they say, do, etc. Read like crazy, listen to podcasts, and get after it!
3. Get realistic. Recognize limitations. The 2010 Mentor doesn’t mean you shouldn’t have personal relationships with others. On the contrary! You desperately need real relational influences in your life. The 2010 Mentor is not a substitute for face-to-face relationships. It just means you are seeking out a specific person to learn from for a specific reason. It is supplemental to other relationships and friendships in your life. There are obvious limitations to the 2010 Mentor, but if you are intentional with who you seek out, you can learn a ton! Just make sure you are realistic about what they can offer.
How do you find 2010 Mentors? Please share! For more thoughts on clarifying your personal vision and values, check out: The Player Piano and Leadership- Writing Your Own Song in Life, Mastering Time and Influencing the World: 5 Things I’ve Learned About Time, Focus & Eating Frogs & 10 Crucial Questions to Ask Yourself in 2010.
How do I become a 2010 Mentor?
1. Be transparent. Be willing to allow others to see into your life. Social media (blogs, Facebook, Twitter) is the perfect platform for this. If you learn something, share it. People can’t follow you or learn from you if your life is not accessible to them in any way.
2. Be Intentional. Be intentional about what you allow others to see. I intentionally blog and post about leadership, innovation, church, family, impacting culture. Almost everything I post is intentional in some way. I am doing my best to model certain behaviors so that others in my life can follow my lead. As your discover your values in life, allow these values to shape your actions. Then be intentional about your actions and what you allow others to see. Light bulbs throw out a ton of light that goes in all different directions. Lasers focus that light and have serious impact. Be the laser, not the lightbulb. Be intentional.
3. Be vulnerable. Be willing to get a little vulnerable. People need to see that you are not perfect. They need to see that you are a real person. If you mess up, share it (when appropriate). Be willing to take risks and don’t preten to have all the answers. Have more questions than answers. Develop conversations and relationships. Be vulnerable.
How else can you be a 2010 Mentor? Please share. For more thoughts on influencing others, check out: 10 Essentials of Online Leadership, Leadership Ain’t A Title: How To Gain Influence Where You Are Now, 4 Twitter Questions Every Blogger or Organization Should Ask, Social Media Ain’t About Me: 5 Ways to Be Selfless on Facebook or Twitter.
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