Man Friends
I’ve got man friends (we don’t play rugby). Not anything inappropriate, just man friends. Some people just call them friends. This morning we had breakfast together. We talked about being dads, the Texas Rangers going to the World Series and about funny things kids do. We talked about dreams and aspirations. Nothing crazy- just coffee, conversation and friendship.
Guys, do you have man friends? Ladies, do the guys in your life have man friends? Is this important? Why or why not? Love to hear your thoughts in the comments below!
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I don’t have guys I can just go and hang out with here in Midland. I do back home in Ohio. We still talk on the phone quite a bit and email each other, but it’s not the same as getting to go have a cup of coffee with someone and just chill.
I’ve got manfriends. 3 guys, we meet once a week, they can ask me ANYTHING, and I have the same place in their life. We laugh more than we do anything else, and we interrupt terribly serious moments with getting distracted by sports stats… But all in all, we’re focusing each other on Jesus by getting together each week.
It would be somewhere between almost impossible and absolutely impossible for me to seek a razor’s edge of holiness in my lives if I did not have these men (or men like them) to meet with and do the “iron sharpening iron” thing.
I used to pretend with myself that I could handle it on my own… It was pretend. That’s all.
I ALWAYS need guys in my life who can bring me up short if I’m fooling myself, or attempting to fool others, my wife, the church, etc.
Thanks for your post! Makes me thankful again that I’ve got these guys in my life.
Kely, you are welcome! Thanks for setting an example for the rest of us. Great thoughts… – Chad
I do have man friends. I find this is not a common thing in our world. These men, four or five of us, meet weekly for a meal and share man stuff. This is not the stereotypical burp, fart and spit man stuff although that is often included. We bring life into each other’s souls. These men inspire great passions.
These men also share great adventure. These adventures stretch us. There is almost always a metaphor from life in these adventures. In these adventures we help each other answer the man question; do I have what it takes? Most of all these adventures are just plain fun.
These men are willing to spend themselves investing in each other’s behalf. We call each other to live out life according to God’s perfect design. These men recognize and celebrate that high achievement that the world does not know. These are men willing to dare greatly. These are mighty men of valor.
And yes, these men do occasionally fail. When one is weak the others rally. We acknowledge to each other our vulnerabilities. We trust each other to have our back. We stand shoulder to shoulder when forced against the wall by the modern day giants.
I would be less of a man without these brothers. I see Jesus in
them.
Eddie, thanks for blowing my mind with your thoughts! Love the adventure, the investment, the being vulnerable. Thanks for the comment! – Chad
Real men do life with real men. I have discover and exsprence a deep love and respect for the men in my life. We have been doing life together for almost 2 years now and I have devolped a love for these guys that I would have never imagine would be possible between men. A love that almost brings me to tiers just thinking about them. There is something vary powerful when real men come together and form a bond that goes way beyond any description of a “mens group” or a “life group”. A bond that is committed, not just once a week but 24/7. Four men becoming one in the spirt fighting and protecting each other as one.
But this is not easy to find. To be honest it is actually quite difficult to even find real men any more, especially in my generation. More and more people are looking at this generation of men and asking the question “where have all the real men gone?” That right there does not set well in my spirt…
“what you do today will echo throughout eternity”
Man, I so wish I had this — a great group of guy friends like that. I’ve got my share of guy friends here & there, but not a group of guys, and certainly not all close in location. What a blessing for you — sounds like you know that, though. I can only pray God will bring those kinds of friends into my life someday.
Thanks David. Pray for it in a time frame, then open up the old eye balls and start looking all around you!
I love this blog!! I started a men’s group at my church and God brought us together to be brothers in Christ and warriors in the battle called life. We can call, text or e-mail each other when we feel down, need prayer tempted or just need to celebrate a small victory.
I could not lead a pure life alone but I can lead a pure life with God and these men.
Brian, thank you so much for the kind words. Thanks for setting such an awesome example for us!
Hmm my husband man friends are great. They are very honorable I think it IS VERY health for him to have man friends I am always butting my nose for him to have his guy time. I have learned his man relationships are different then mine and it is all ok. After almost 8 years of marriage I finally get it don’t drip drip like a faucet even about his man friends. They are all respectful people which I think reflects what kind of man my husband is:) And or what he thinks of me:). Man friends are great to have for you all brothers. Viva man friends and viva lady friends for us ladys:) Bendiciones and Hi everyone.